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Catnapping in Babies

If thеrе is something thаt shows uѕ juѕt how dіffеrеnt our babies are, it has tо bе how varied naps саn be – еѕресіаllу durіng thоѕе fіrѕt few mоnthѕ! There is a lot of pressure to hаvе оur babies оn a ѕсhеdulе frоm dау оnе. Thе kеуword we wаnt tо еlіmіnаtе hеrе іѕ рrеѕѕurе. Puttіng рrеѕѕurе оn ourselves tо gеt the sleeping ѕсhеdulе іn place is totally insane. Parents рut wау tоо much рrеѕѕurе on themselves аnd іnаdvеrtеntlу mіѕѕes оut on the joy оf  bеіng wіth their bаbies. Always remember, you аrе nоt a fаіlurе іf your bаbу doesn’t sleep thе ‘suggested’ amount!

Sоmе bаbіеѕ wіll nаturаllу sleep longer thаn others. Sоmе babies wіll hаvе 2-3 hour nарѕ and ѕоmе babies will have 20-60 minute nарѕ. Some bаbіеѕ wіll have a mix of bоth. And all оf it іѕ nоrmаl.

 

Whу Dо Babies Cаtnар?

One оf thе рrіmаrу rеаѕоnѕ is thаt bаbіеѕ ѕреnd mоrе time in a lіght ѕtаgе оf ѕlеер called REM (Rapid Eуе Mоvеmеnt). This means thаt thеу wаkе uр еаѕіlу and may also find іt dіffісult to gо bасk tо ѕlеер. Thеу аlѕо tаkе longer tо establish a routine, which аllоwѕ thеіr bodies tо undеrѕtаnd the difference bеtwееn day and nіght.

It’s аlѕо wоrth nоtіng thаt babies whо аrе рut tо ѕlеер bу bouncing оr rосkіng, bоttlе or breastfeeding wіll аlwауѕ lооk fоr thе thіng thаt helps them fаll аѕlеер. Thеrеfоrе, іn thе fіrѕt fеw mоnthѕ, thеіr ѕlеер іѕ ԛuіtе unрrеdісtаblе.

But as kіdѕ pass thrоugh thаt lіght ѕlеер stage, thеу stay аwаkе. And as they grоw оldеr, thеу lеаrn tо рut themselves bасk to sleep. Studies show that іt іѕ normal for naps tо ѕtаrt соnѕоlіdаtіng аnd bесоmіng mоrе соnѕіѕtеnt when baby is аrоund 5 mоnthѕ. Up until then, the catnaps аrе normal and vеrу very соmmоn! It’ѕ аll wеll аnd gооd tо knоw thаt, but іt can be рrеttу fruѕtrаtіng, dіѕhеаrtеnіng аnd соnfuѕіng whеn уоu hеаr уоur newborn wake uр аftеr 45 mіnutеѕ – сrуіng – аnd уоu KNOW thеу nееd mоrе ѕlеер.

Sо, what tо dо?

 

Shоrt ѕlеер сусlеѕ

A саtnар іѕ a short sleep сусlе оf 40 mіnutеѕ оr lеѕѕ and thе inability tо рut ѕlеер сусlеѕ tоgеthеr. Bу fоur mоnthѕ, іf thіѕ skill hаѕ nоt been lеаrnеd and bаbу іѕ unable tо self-settle, you’ll more thаn lіkеlу еnd uр wіth a ѕlеер рrоblеm. Cаtnарріng іѕ thе ѕtеаlеr of good rеѕtоrаtіvе sleep and рооr dау sleep wіll іmрасt оn nіght ѕlеер after 4 mоnthѕ. Yоung babies ѕреnd a lot оf time in active ѕlеер. Wе саll this REM sleep (Rapid Eуе Mоvеmеnt) оr drеаmіng ѕlеер. Durіng thіѕ stage of sleep, wе nоtісе еуеѕ flісkеr аnd thеіr ѕtаrtlе reflex is ԛuіtе рrоnоunсеd.

 

Hоw muсh ѕlеер іѕ normal?

Nеwbоrnѕ (1-4 wееkѕ оld) tурісаllу ѕlеер 14-18 hours реr dау. Slееріng in ѕhоrt burѕtѕ of 2-4 hours аnd no circadian/biological rhythm. Wе оftеn say thеу’vе gоt their days and nights mіxеd uр, whісh іѕ truе fоr mаnу. Onсе baby іѕ 1-4-mоnthѕ-оld thеу start to establish a ѕlеер раttеrn. A typical 1-4 mоnth bаbу ѕlеерѕ for 14-15 hоurѕ a dау. Bу 6 wееkѕ dау and nіght confusion ѕtаrtѕ tо еnd.

 

Cаtnарріng And Inconsolable Babies

Catnapping mау nоt bе harmful іf thе bаbу іѕ growing and generally healthy. Whеthеr thеу tаkе catnaps оr еxtеndеd nарѕ, іt means thаt thеу аrе getting аррrорrіаtе sleep thеу rеԛuіrе for thеіr аgе. But thе саuѕе fоr соnсеrn аrіѕеѕ bе whеn thе baby wаkеѕ uр early frоm hіѕ оr her nар and іѕ inconsolable. This, even after feeding, сhаngіng diaper, аnd rocking him/her. It іѕ аlwауѕ recommended tо go tо thе doctor since thеrе аrе сhаnсеѕ оf аn undеrlуіng problem. Thе еntіrе рrосеѕѕ саn bе tіrіng for thе parents еѕресіаllу for nеw momѕ, as thеу аlѕо wаkе uр fоr nіght fееdѕ.

Try tо lооk for сuеѕ when thе little one іѕ tіrеd: уаwnіng and ѕuсklіng their fіngеrѕ. Put thеm down іn their сrіb аnd let thеm lull themselves tо ѕlеер without rосkіng or feeding. If thеу can nар оn their оwn, thеу are more lіkеlу to pacify themselves tо ѕlеер. Thіѕ typically hарреnѕ when they еntеr thе light рhаѕе and wоn’t need уоu to rосk thеm tо ѕlеер.

If thеу wаkе up, аvоіd рісkіng thеm uр іmmеdіаtеlу. Inѕtеаd, try раttіng thеm back tо ѕlеер. Mаіntаіn a rоutіnе аnd a harmonious environment around the baby. Catnapping іѕ ѕіmрlу a routine that bаbіеѕ gо thrоugh durіng at ѕоmе роіnt in tіmе. It іѕ іmроrtаnt for parents to get fаmіlіаr and аdjuѕt tо thіѕ аnd rеmеmbеr thаt this too shall раѕѕ. This wау the еntіrе рrосеѕѕ wіll become еаѕіеr and уоu саn ѕаіl thrоugh thіѕ ѕtаgе without much trоublе. We do fіnd thаt ѕоmе parents gеt fixated оn hоw muсh their bаbіеѕ ѕlеер in thе day, rather thаn juѕt ѕееіng this аѕ a рhаѕе аnd еnjоуіng their bаbу fоr whо thеу are.

Please try not to stress аbоut іt, juѕt gо wіth thе flоw іn thе mеаntіmе. Yоu wіll lіkеlу fіnd thаt ѕоmе tірѕ dо work оvеr tіmе or that аѕ your bаbу grоwѕ, hеr ѕlеер сhаngеѕ.

Vasectomy After Childbirth

A vasectomy is a type of birth control done on men. The procedure involves a small operation where the vas deferens are either cut or blocked, thereby preventing sperm from being released during ejaculation. After a vasectomy, you and your partner can still enjoy orgasm but it can’t get you to be pregnant. However, in rare cases, you may still get pregnant after a failed vasectomy.

A standard vasectomy procedure is typically performed within 30 minutes and under local anaesthesia. You partner will probably go home after the procedure, but he will need to avoid sex and other strenuous activities for close to a week.

A vasectomy is hardly immediately effective. The reason is that all the existing sperm in the system needs to clear out before the vasectomy can be effective. Sometimes, it can take up to three months to clear out completely and having unprotected sex during this period can result in pregnancy.

Vasectomies are generally safe and rarely result in complications. However, potential short term complications include bruising, swelling, bleeding inside the scrotum, blood in semen and infections. Meanwhile, other possible long term complications of a vasectomy include chronic pain and the buildup of fluid in the testicles.

Although vasectomies are theoretically reversible, it isn’t always reversible.  To tell the truth, reversing it isn’t even an option for some men. Besides, some men will still never be able to get a woman pregnant after a vasectomy reversal.

It is therefore imperative for men to think thoroughly before going in for a vasectomy. A vasectomy is not for men who still desire to have children in the short run. It’s actually advisable to go in for this procedure after you and your partner are done having children or if you don’t want to have children at all.

Endeavour to seek specialist advice from a urologist the moment your partner make up your mind to go in for a vasectomy. A urologist will educate you partner on the procedure and all its risk factors.

In a nutshell, a vasectomy is one of the most efficient birth control methods but needs to be thought out well because reversing it is not always an option.

How Do I Co-parent after a Break-up?

Sometimes, relationships just go wrong making a separation the only way forward. Unfortunately, kids sometimes bear the brunt of separation as starting a new life with parents who live apart could be challenging. But then, as a good parent, you need to figure out a way to co-parent after your breakup. Here are some of the tips for co-parenting after a break-up;

 

  1.     Take time to heal

Breakups are usually painful, at least to one of the parties. So, if you are the one who got hurt in the relationship, you need to take time to heal to make co-parenting easier for you both. If you are still bitter about what happened, it will be difficult and almost impossible to have reasonable discussions with your ex about the welfare and wellbeing of your child.

  1.     Be involved in your child’s day-to-day life

You need to be intentional about being present in your child’s day-to-day life after a separation. The best way to do so is by communicating effectively and sharing parenting responsibilities with your ex. You guys need to talk about finances, logistics, and your child’s emotional needs. But besides talking, you need to actively participate in your child’s life even if he doesn’t live with you. For example, you could opt for your ex to pick up your child every day from school, even if your child lives with you.

  1.     Set barriers

Many people change after a separation and so to co-parent effectively, you need to set boundaries. Avoid asking personal questions about things that should no longer be your business. For example, resist the urge to ask your ex who he is dating or what his plans are. Rather, stick only to conversations that concern your child’s wellbeing and welfare. When you stick to issues that only concern your child, co-parenting becomes a lot easier.

  1.     Communicate as a team

Communication is as crucial while co-parenting as it is in relationships. It is normal to have disagreements with your ex over your child from time to time but don’t let that be an excuse to cut him off. Rather, find a common ground to communicate with him and explain your angle of the issue so you guys could possibly agree once more.

  1.     Stay accessible

After a break-up, you need to stay accessible to your ex, either by phone or physically. The reason is that issues about your child requiring your approval or disapproval could pop up at any time. So instead of blocking access to your partner, being accessible and flexible will go a long way to help you both co-parent effectively.

Managing Sibling Jealousy

Having a new baby is indeed a thing of joy. However, you may realize that your toddler isn’t exactly excited about having a new brother or sister. Most toddlers get jealous of the divided attention of their mothers once their younger ones arrive. Indeed, some children find it difficult to adjust to the new addition to the family. This can be completely normal, but there are a few things you can do to avoid this sort of sibling jealousy;

 

  1.     Let your toddler be involved in caring for the newborn

For example, give him two outfits to choose what he thinks is most suitable for his little brother or sister. You could also ask your toddler to do mini tasks like passing a diaper or cotton bud to you when you are dressing up the baby.

 

  1.     Let them feel acknowledged

You need to be deliberate about acknowledging their points of view. For example, you could agree with your toddler that babies are needy and clingy or you could agree with him that you two need to hang out at the playground more often.

 

  1.     Be intentional about putting your toddler first sometimes

It can be overwhelming dealing with a newborn, but to keep your toddler’s emotions in check, you need to make deliberate efforts to put him first sometimes. For example, you could tell the baby to wait a minute to be fed while you first get your toddler snacks. You could also place the baby in a swing and play a game with your toddler.

 

  1.     Encourage your toddler to talk about their anger or jealousy

Another way to minimize the effects of sibling rivalry after a new baby arrives is by constantly encouraging your toddler to open up about their emotions and state of mind. Studies have found that most newborn babies have been victims of aggression from their older siblings. However, a positive approach to parenting that encourages toddlers to express themselves goes a long way to curb such aggressive practices.

 

  1.     Let your toddler know just how much the newborn loves him

For example, point out to your toddler whenever his younger sibling is smiling or staring at him. Let him know the baby is doing all those from a place of love and admiration. The trick is to boost the confidence level of your toddler so that he will in turn respond better to the new addition to the family.

 

  1.     Avoid comparing your toddler with the newborn

Resist the urge to ask your toddler why he can’t be as calm as the newborn. Such questions always brew resentment and more jealousy. Even if you are stressed and too tired, avoid making such statements.

 

  1.     Maintain your toddler’s routines

Maintaining those routines that your toddler enjoys is also a great way to help them stay confident that they remain special to you. For example, if you have a routine of reading bedtime stories to your toddler, do not stop doing so once you give birth. Other routines you shouldn’t stop include going to the playground and visiting friends.

Types of Parenting Styles and their Effects on Kids

You become a parent the moment you give birth or adopt a child. And oftentimes a parent tends to gravitate towards a parenting style which he or she thinks suits well with their needs and philosophy. Ultimately, a parent would want their children to grow and develop well. Your parenting style will definitely affect what or who your child becomes in the future. Besides, you are your children’s role model, and how you treat and discipline them will greatly influence their lives.

According to research, there are four main parenting styles which include authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved styles of parenting.

  1.     Authoritarian parenting style

These are parents who believe that their kids should do all they say without any exceptions. Such parents are never interested in negotiating or considering their kid’s points of view when it comes to solving issues. An authoritarian parent simply makes the rules and forces the kids to obey, irrespective of the consequences it could have on them. They will prefer to punish their child instead of disciplining him. They will also make decisions for their children instead of teaching them how to make better choices in life. Children of authoritarian parents turn to be aggressive, and hostile with low self-esteem issues because their opinions never count.

  1.     Authoritative parenting style

Authoritative parents are those who set rules for their children while simultaneously taking their opinions. They often let their children know that their feelings matter but they never forget to make them understand that the adults are in charge. An authoritative parent will typically invest a lot of time, and energy in strategies that prevent behavioral problems in their kids. According to research, children from authoritative parents are most likely to become self-confident, successful, happy, and responsible adults in the future.

  1.     Permissive parenting style

These are parents who are generally lenient with their kids but never fail to step up if there is a serious problem. A typical permissive parent forgives and adopts his attitude to his kids and may use consequences but not stick with them. Such parents are more like friends who encourage their kids to always be open to them. Some pros of the permissive parenting style yield children who are self-assured, explorative, and creative. There are pieces of evidence though that that link the permissive parenting style to problems in children like having poor academic performance and behavioral problems since they have been trained not to appreciate authority and rules.

  1.     Uninvolved parenting style

This style of parenting is when parents don’t respond to their child’s needs or desires beyond their basics needs (food, clothing, shelter). These are parents who do not guide, nurture and pay attention to their kids. They set little or no rules and do not even know nor understand their children’s personalities. Children of uninvolved parents raise themselves as their parents never involve their time and energy in providing for what’s beyond their basic needs. Most uninvolved parents do not neglect their children deliberately. Some parents are overly tired and get overwhelmed with the daily stresses of life and are thus often preoccupied with their own personal affairs. While the uninvolved parenting style is not always intentional, it involves an ongoing pattern of emotional distance between parent and child. It also usually involves a lack of discipline style towards their children. Due of the aforementioned set-up, kids of this parenting style often become self-reliant, lack emotional connection to their parent, have low self-esteem issues, and would often become emotionally needy in other relationships. They would also lack coping skills, and would most likely use the same parenting style to their own children.

Remember, one parenting style does not reign supreme over the others. You may learn a thing or two from each and borrow a specific tactic to use in different situations that you will come across your parenting journey.

Regular Hearing Test is Important For Your Child

According to the resource from WHO, it is estimated over 5% of the world’s population will suffer from hearing loss*. In 2050, it is about one in every 10 people will have hearing impairment problem.* Therefore, hearing test has become one of the mandatory tests to all babies right after birth.

 

Why is it necessary to get hearing tests done?

Newborn hearing tests are performed on newborns to rule out any problems during early development. However, it is imperative to have your children done with childhood hearing tests, because it can pick up any late-onset problems or preventing hearing conditions from getting worse. Some children can develop late onset or acquired hearing loss due to genetic factors, infections, injury and noise exposure. Even if the babies have passed the newborn hearing test at birth, a regular screening can reveal slight or gradual hearing loss that necessitates treatment and monitoring.

When parents do not get routine hearing tests done, the chances are that multiple hearing problems can remain undiagnosed for months or even years. Hearing problems must be identified at an earlier age because this can affect your child’s speech, social skills, and language development. When the problems are detected early on, management and treatment are easier. Early diagnosis also ensures access to special support, if needed.

 

When should you get your child’s hearing checked?

It is always better to get hearing problems diagnosed early because the prognosis is much better before the child is six months of age. That is why every newborn child needs a hearing screening test before they are discharged from the hospital.

If your baby does not get tested before being discharged, get their testing done during the first three weeks. If your child does not pass the hearing test, it does not imply that they have hearing loss. However, it does mean that they should be tested again after three months. Diagnosis of hearing loss then means that your baby needs treatment.

 

How is the hearing test done?

There are several other types of hearing tests, which are:

 

Auditory Brainstorm (ABR) Test

This test checks for sensorineural hearing loss, which to exam how the hearing nerves and brain reacts to sounds.

 

Otoacoustic Emissions (OEA) Test

This test is commonly used in infants and young children, which to exam how the hair cells in the inner ear reacts to sounds.

 

Tympanometry

This test checks the function of the middle ear, which to exam how well the eardrum moves or responds to the sound.

The audiologist is the designated personnel to do the hearing test, and the type of test depends on the child’s age, development, and health.

Many children will go through a behavioral hearing test, which means checking the child’s response to sounds, for example, calibrated speech and pure tones. Pure tones have a very specific pitch.

Audiologists lookout for behavioral responses after the child listens to a sound. For example, toddlers and babies make eye movements or move their heads. The older kids move a game piece or raise their hands. The kids also respond to speech by choosing a picture or by repeating the words.

A referral to the ENT (Ear, Nose & Throat) specialist will be made as soon as your child failed the hearing test. Do talk to your healthcare provider if you noticed your child was not responding well to the sound.

 

Reference:

Deafness and hearing loss page. World Health Organization Website. https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/deafness-and-hearing-loss. January 4, 2022.

About Reading/Writing Learners

A reading/writing learner is a child who learns most effectively with written materials. Such learners love to write and they tend to comprehend what they have read better. Most reading/writing learners grasp information best by note-taking strategies as well as transcribing ideas and concepts. Reading/writing learners can learn through a combination of techniques that have been proven to be effective.

  1. Notes taking

Reading/writing learners can hardly listen and remember the information later. This is why they need to take notes by paraphrasing what the teacher is saying and what is written down on the slides. The idea is not to write down everything the teacher says word for word, but to take down the key ideas as they are delivered. Reading/writing learners are likely to understand and retain what they have learnt after reviewing their notes at a later time.

  1. Making lists

Most reading/writing learners are list people, who prefer organizing their thoughts by chronologically listing their ideas. They love to make lists about key ideas, keywords, and the main concepts, which helps their brains. This helps their brains easily organize and remember the information. Besides, these lists also act as prompters that help reading/writing learners not forget to go through anything that has been taught to them.

  1. Reading supplementary information

Reading/writing learners can excel better by reading supplementary information. They naturally love to read, so reading supplementary information will help them understand ideas and concepts from different perspectives. Besides, reading/writing learners can always gain in-depth knowledge about particular topics being assigned, but they also reading what other authors are saying about the subject.

  1. Re-reading notes

Taking down notes is not enough for reading/writing learners. They need to re-read their notes to excel in flying colors. The ability to read and comprehend in reading/writing learners is above average, so they should invest time in reading useful materials such as articles, textbooks and other pieces of information related to topics for a clearer picture.

As a parent or teacher, it’s your responsibility to nurture your reading/writing learners in the right learning environment that works for them. You should therefore conduct lessons using worksheets and handouts for better understanding. Paying close attention to developing your child’s reading and writing skills will also go a long way to groom him to learn well. Moreover, teaching reading/writing learners about document management such as weekly feeling and termly organization will equally go a long way to make learning conducive for them.

About Kinesthetic Learners

A kinesthetic learner is a child who learns by doing things by touching or manipulating objects. Kinesthetic learners do not learn by seeing or listening but rather prefer to be engaged in physical tangible learning exercises. There are indications that most kinesthetic learners are sensory people whose minds thrive better from the things they touch, smell, taste or experience with their bodies. This is why hands-on learning projects are the most effective way of teaching kinesthetic children. For example, while visual and auditory learners can easily grasp the concept of volcanic eruptions by watching videos and listening, a kinesthetic learner may instead grasp the concept by constructing the process out of clay and mixing substances to cause an eruption.

There are a few characteristics to distinguish kinesthetic learners from the other types of learners. Kinesthetic learners love doing practical work with tools, instruments and supplies. They are more skilled at solving puzzles and tend to remember the things they have done as opposed to those they have seen and heard. Moreover, kinesthetic learners love to construct things like crafts or DIY projects with their hands. They think more critically and clearly when they move around and engage with objects and their peers rather than just sitting in the same position and listening to explanations.

Kinesthetic learners can conveniently learn at a pace that is comfortable to them, without having to worry about falling behind their auditory and visual peers. This is why teachers need to use multiple different teaching methods to assess the strengths and weaknesses of each student, to make adjustments that give students room for improvement.

The advantages of kinesthetic learners over the other types of learners include the fact that they often grasp the big picture of the task as a result of their hands-on involvement in the project. Besides, kinesthetic learners tend to think out of the normal classroom assignments, thereby seeking real-world applications. Above all, kinesthetic learners can easily fix their mistakes since they often learn organically through trial and error.

Some of the best teaching strategies for kinesthetic learners include using charts and presentations, utilizing games and activities, going on field trips, bringing in subject experts, having class discussions and above all, letting the children teach their classmates during some lessons. Meanwhile, some of the best teaching tools and supplies for kinesthetic learners are matching games, molding clay, puzzles, index cards, puppets, countable objects as well as arts and craft supplies.

Many kinesthetic learners go on to have careers that are related to hands-on field activities such as athletics, carpentry, plumbing, dancing, acting, physical therapy and agriculture, etc.

About Auditory Learners

An auditory learner is a child who learns effectively by listening. An auditory learner will rather listen to lectures and instructions than reading textbooks. Auditory learners tend to process the information better when they have heard instead of reading or seeing.

Auditory learners have some characteristics that make them thrive perfectly in classroom settings. For example, they are eloquent and good at telling stories. Auditory learners have excellent listening skills and they retain spoken information perfectly. They enjoy conversations and are often not afraid to express their opinions. They excel well in oral presentations or oral exams and they can explain ideas well for the understanding of others.

There are many ways to effectively teach auditory learners. For example, you can conveniently teach an auditory learner through repetition. This assertion can be backed by the fact that repeating spoken details can help them understand best since they learn best by listening. Auditory learners can also learn effectively through verbal discourses, discussions and conversations. Moreover, including social elements such as group assignments, paired reading and group projects can help auditory learners to excel. To teach auditory learners effectively, you must first help them identify their learning style, so they can play an active role in learning.

Auditory learners can conveniently learn through powerful educative tools such as;

  • Podcasts: They will learn easily if you give them opportunities to listen to podcasts;
  • Question & Answer Sessions: They will learn better by verbally asking questions and listening to the answers. The whole essence of this is to clear up misunderstandings or concerns.
  • Recorded lectures: Give recorded lectures to students who missed lectures for one reason or another instead of giving them a chunk of notes to read.
  • Background music during quiet times: Auditory learners usually appreciate short background music so that they don’t get distracted by noise or silence.

There are a few tips to help auditory learners to focus in classroom or work settings. For example, asking questions in the classroom is an effective learning tip for auditory learners as it gives them the opportunities to learn by listening carefully to the answers. Having a study buddy is also ideal for auditory learners because having someone to repeat information or read out information will facilitate the process of learning. Above all, participating in discussions is a good idea for auditory learners. Discussions give them the opportunities to listen to others and also share their ideas which could go a long way to clear up their misunderstandings.

Tandem Nursing

Just found out that you are pregnant again while nursing a toddler? Well, you have a decision to make about nursing, one that many mothers have had to make in similar situation.

There are two options. You can choose to wean your toddler while pregnant, so you can focus on nursing your new baby. On the flip side, you can choose to nurse them both, also known as tandem nursing.

What is Tandem Nursing? 

Tandem nursing is best defined as nursing two children of different ages. It is quite different from nursing twin babies. In tandem nursing, the mother nurses a baby and a toddler at the same time.

There are a few concerns about tandem nursing, but the first thing you should know is that it is safe. Generally, many mothers manage to do tandem nursing as long as they have a healthy pregnancy such as no cramps or spotting. If you are unsure, continuously seek advice from your doctor during prenatal checkup.

However, there are certain red flags that may lead to weaning your toddler:

  • High-risk pregnancy or risk for miscarriage
  • Multiple pregnancy
  • Uterine pain or bleeding

The biggest concern mothers have about tandem nursing is the milk supply. You do not have to worry about this if you want to nurse. Your breast produces enough milk to meet demand. This means that as long as you do tandem nursing, your breast will provide enough breast milk for both of your children.

You may also consider feeding your newborn first before his/her sibling.  Now that you know that tandem nursing is safe, the next question is, how do you do it?

There are no right or wrong ways to tandem nursing. Each mother finds their groove and does what feels best for her and her children.

However, there are a few suggestions that you can try out. Nurse your children simultaneously, or one after each other. Positioning and timing depend on you and your children. As long as everyone is happy, fed, and satisfied, you are doing great.

Why Tandem Nurse? 

There are a lot of advantages. Here are a few;

  • It increases your milk supply fast. Your body will produce enough breast milk for two, so you might not deal with underproduction.
  • Nursing your toddler simultaneously with your newborn can reduce your chances of experiencing an engorged breast.
  • It is a great bonding experience for everyone, especially for your toddler and your baby. Toddlers can feel threatened with the presence of a newborn. Tandem nursing helps reassure the toddler of your attention and care while also introducing him/her to the new baby.
  • The only disadvantage here is that it is exhausting. Nursing two children at the same time is not a walk in the park, but you can overcome this by eating healthy, staying hydrated, and resting.

In conclusion, tandem nursing is a great way to feed your newborn and your toddler while also bonding with them. It is safe and healthy all-round, but if it takes a toll on you, you can try weaning your toddler early in the process. A ‘no offer, no refuse’ strategy can be very effective for this.

What Type of Learner Is My Child?

Every child is unique and learns at his or her pace. While some children are fast bloomers who start learning how to talk and do other things early, other children can be late bloomers who take their time to learn. As a parent, it is imperative for you to take out time to understand how your child learns best so you can nurture them according to their full potential.

The first step to helping your child learn is to find out the type of learner he or she is. There are four main learning styles: visual, auditory, reading/writing and kinesthetic. Although many children can easily learn through a combination of two or more of these styles, they have one that works best for them. The trick is  to know your child’s preferred study method so that you can implement the right methods that will make him understand and retain whatever he has learned. Your goal should be to implement effective study methods that are geared towards complementing your child’s strengths instead of working against them.

Knowing the characteristics of each learning styles will enable you to identify the type of learner your child is. Visual learners typically excel in visual activities such as arts. They love books with illustrations and are good at recognizing as well as recalling words, people and places. Visual learners are mostly interested in the world and the objects around them. Moreover, they excel well when given examples of the tasks they are working on.

Auditory learners rather excel in auditory activities such as music. They perform well when following verbal instructions and they love singing and humming while playing or doing school work. An auditory learner enjoys conversing with others and always listens to all instructions before starting a task. In addition, auditory learners always ask many questions when working on tasks or activities.

On the other hand, reading/writing learners enjoy reading books and writing stories. They love to take notes down when working on a task. They love quiet spaces and are good at remembering whatever they have written.

Meanwhile, a kinesthetic learner excels more at physical and hands-on activities. They find it challenging sitting down while learning but rather enjoy active learning like drawing or study games.

It is your duty as a parent to know where your child falls and use the appropriate techniques that match your study needs.

About Visual Learners

A visual learner is a child who learns effectively by reading or seeing pictures. Such a child learns by sight through primarily visual methods such as charts, maps, images, and graphics.

Visual learners actually prefer getting information about particular things by observing or reading rather than listening because they love seeing what they are learning. This explains why visual learners always ask their parents, guardians and teachers to show them whenever they want to learn something new.

Visual learners enjoy activities such as drawing, making posters and creating things with colors, rather than using words. The uniqueness of visual learners lies in the fact that they can close their eyes and visualize or remember whatever they have forgotten. Visual learners tend to find it challenging when they are taught with spoken words as they could easily be distracted by sounds. To tell the truth, visual learners are more attracted to colors and imaginary stories that paint perfect pictures.

Just like with other types of learners, visual learners can also learn through a combination of other learning styles. Some pro tips for learning as a visual learner include avoiding distractions during study time, using flashcards to learn new words, and drawing pictures that explain new concepts. It would be good to write down instructions, ideas or keywords before performing tasks.

As a parent, you need to implement the right methods to teach your child whom you have identified as a visual learner. Here are some powerful tips for teaching visual learners;

  • Label everything in your home including your furniture, kitchen utensils, shelves, doors, windows and etc. You can write these words on index cards and tape them to the objects. Rest assured that this will help your child to connect certain words with images mentally.
  • Use fun visual games to teach your child certain activities. You can search for interesting educative visual games online.
  • Encourage your visual learner to draw. For example, when reading a story to your child, you can encourage him to draw a picture of the story and summarize it to you. You can be sure that such drawings will help your child remember the main facts of the story you read.
  • Encourage them to make lists such as books, snacks and toy inventories. Most visual learners love making lists, which is a good thing because it makes them practice the art of writing and keeping.